"The best relationships--friendship and otherwise--tend to be those where you can say anything to the other person but you don't say everything."
Recently,when in Pavi's room,a hard truth struck me:you might have had N^(infinity) crushes and not done anything about it(as in my case) or (infinity)^N relationships(not applicable) but inevitably in the END you might end up with some arbit guy!!The incidents leading up to this situation shall be under covers until I see a time fit to uncover them.
Ofcourse,I wouldn't say yes to some arbit fellow from across the street...what if my worst fear comes true and he turns out to be a psychopath killer!Seriously,imagine that.I've watched enough horror movies,read enough news and actually met too many people who look entirely normal but display total lack of normalcy,to rule out such possibilities.
Anyways,it had me trying hard to figure out,for the first time,what it actually means to be in a relationship.Lets see how it goes..What better place to start than our very own insti.It indeed offers many a subjects to study.Holding the title of 'one of the most beautiful campuses in the country',with its lush greenery,the clean,smooth,wide,curving roads with canopy of tall trees,the orderly chaos the trees maintain,the deer,freshly mowed grass,the smell of rain or the sweet smell of summer in the air,the cool breeze that sometimes makes you wanna block everything out,the lake in the early hours of morning(lemme leave out the monkeys) all make for quite a romantic setting,I guess.
The point is,whether you like it or not,you get to witness a lotta stuff...what would you call it..'public display of affection' in full blast!
(This is where I had left before the power-cut.My attempts of trying to sleep went in vain as the Chennai heat started sinking in.Went to Tifs for a cuppa coffee and onion dosa..happened to meet Chi and Sunny there.MB was there too putting some fundaes which went like "|r1-r2| is less then z0.." to a couple of guys.His words "All are adults here da!" on the bus on our dept day-out came ringing and I was back at my lappie typing away.)
As I was saying,you get to see couples holding hands,staring into each others' eyes like they got some telepathic super-powers,making you wonder if anything in the world is worth such a strenuous exercise...the slow nodding/shaking of heads,tears bursting to fall,the showering of hugs in ccd and if you happen to walk in on one of the night-walk scenes,God forbid!Oh yeah,we girls sometimes go for walks after dinner...how else do we keep all the others updated about you know...everything!Its a free country..I cant complain lol
And if you knew me well,you could tell where I'd seat myself in ccd(interesting vantage point I'd like to call),unless I'm fatigued,and give a running commentary to all those present around me.And there are those long conversations on the phone,everyday,not once but 'n' times a day!I couldn't last more than half-an-hour in a one-on-one talk(not a problem when in a group) including face-to-face!
A hot topic of discussion on the way to class on a sunny afternoon was "Why do couples hold hands?"I couldn't think of a better answer than "Maybe each is afraid the other might run away the moment they get a chance".The other day,Chi decided to wonder aloud "Why do such nice-looking girls hang out with such guys da?I dont understand!" to which Sandy very wisely answered "Girls are more accommodative when it comes to looks da...while the only thing most guys care about are looks.That's the reason you find beautiful girls with okay-types guys but never a cool-guy with a not-so-good girl".
Sometimes,it looks like someone is with someone for the sake of being with any someone.Some senior invites you to accompany him to ascendas and starts thinking you are a wall the next time you meet,coz you refused to go out!To me,its just outright lol-material.Who am I to say what people should do or should not?!I'm just a silent(now not that much!) observer..a bystander.I know there is more to a relationship than that meets the eye.There ARE people here who don't make a show of what they do or who they go out with.Way to go,you guys!Really..
Guess the scene isn't very much different outside insti.Have just decided to ask my cousin and his gult-wifey for fundaes/their story this summer.They were classmates before and are one of the best fun couples I know personally and like them both,especially when they oblige to treat me for new stuff like their brand new Honda City and the like or gimme one of their digi-cams(till I buy my own).He's always loved irritating me to hell and now has company in the task...guess it was a bad day for me when they decided to read Chetan Bhagat and now totally wanna believe all the boozing stuff!Every single action of mine tells them a story,apparently.
Okie,that was a slight deviation from the topic.Lemme consider the singles' scenario now.
Guys:
A majority of them nerds,studs even,thats a given...somewhat cute..acceptable.Quite a majority of them enjoy the deliberate use of the term "non-males"(love the look on Pavi's face everytime she hears this)...probably frustrated young idiots,whose best friend,for all you know has a terrific gf.Now,there are also those who think attending classes in the same set of clothes for two weeks in a row is a fashion statement...few of my friends would gladly note their birthdays and would like to do some fund-rising stuff,to buy the appropriate presents.You know like forwarding messages that might go something like this"_____ is in dire need of H2O,mixtures of potassium salts of fatty acids and some clothes.We receive Rs 0.50 for every message you forward.Please help.God Bless!"
And there are those who appear disinterested and could make anyone believe talking to girls could be a crime.Could be they have found their first love in Griffiths or Piskunov...but they could atleast be civil and 'just friends',you know.Well,I shouldn't be the one talking about talking to people..if talking to someone for the first time,sometimes it might appear like I've never learnt speaking at all and have never known to smile all my life.But thats the gen opinion!Then there are those who are friendly but afraid of being 'teased' by their friends.Some flirts,friendly ones and other varieties too..
Gals:
This demands another post altogether,including the issue of 'non-males'.
"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take."
Well,to me Friendship is the best relationship in the world...else why would we search for a friend in everyone be it your dad or mom or sibling or a total stranger or the ONE!!:)
PS:If your habitat is nowhere near the banks of Sharavati,you might indeed be treading in unfamiliar territory while reading the post...Cya on the other side of quiz 2!
Recently,when in Pavi's room,a hard truth struck me:you might have had N^(infinity) crushes and not done anything about it(as in my case) or (infinity)^N relationships(not applicable) but inevitably in the END you might end up with some arbit guy!!The incidents leading up to this situation shall be under covers until I see a time fit to uncover them.
Ofcourse,I wouldn't say yes to some arbit fellow from across the street...what if my worst fear comes true and he turns out to be a psychopath killer!Seriously,imagine that.I've watched enough horror movies,read enough news and actually met too many people who look entirely normal but display total lack of normalcy,to rule out such possibilities.
Anyways,it had me trying hard to figure out,for the first time,what it actually means to be in a relationship.Lets see how it goes..What better place to start than our very own insti.It indeed offers many a subjects to study.Holding the title of 'one of the most beautiful campuses in the country',with its lush greenery,the clean,smooth,wide,curving roads with canopy of tall trees,the orderly chaos the trees maintain,the deer,freshly mowed grass,the smell of rain or the sweet smell of summer in the air,the cool breeze that sometimes makes you wanna block everything out,the lake in the early hours of morning(lemme leave out the monkeys) all make for quite a romantic setting,I guess.
The point is,whether you like it or not,you get to witness a lotta stuff...what would you call it..'public display of affection' in full blast!
(This is where I had left before the power-cut.My attempts of trying to sleep went in vain as the Chennai heat started sinking in.Went to Tifs for a cuppa coffee and onion dosa..happened to meet Chi and Sunny there.MB was there too putting some fundaes which went like "|r1-r2| is less then z0.." to a couple of guys.His words "All are adults here da!" on the bus on our dept day-out came ringing and I was back at my lappie typing away.)
As I was saying,you get to see couples holding hands,staring into each others' eyes like they got some telepathic super-powers,making you wonder if anything in the world is worth such a strenuous exercise...the slow nodding/shaking of heads,tears bursting to fall,the showering of hugs in ccd and if you happen to walk in on one of the night-walk scenes,God forbid!Oh yeah,we girls sometimes go for walks after dinner...how else do we keep all the others updated about you know...everything!Its a free country..I cant complain lol
And if you knew me well,you could tell where I'd seat myself in ccd(interesting vantage point I'd like to call),unless I'm fatigued,and give a running commentary to all those present around me.And there are those long conversations on the phone,everyday,not once but 'n' times a day!I couldn't last more than half-an-hour in a one-on-one talk(not a problem when in a group) including face-to-face!
Sometimes,it looks like someone is with someone for the sake of being with any someone.Some senior invites you to accompany him to ascendas and starts thinking you are a wall the next time you meet,coz you refused to go out!To me,its just outright lol-material.Who am I to say what people should do or should not?!I'm just a silent(now not that much!) observer..a bystander.I know there is more to a relationship than that meets the eye.There ARE people here who don't make a show of what they do or who they go out with.Way to go,you guys!Really..
Guess the scene isn't very much different outside insti.Have just decided to ask my cousin and his gult-wifey for fundaes/their story this summer.They were classmates before and are one of the best fun couples I know personally and like them both,especially when they oblige to treat me for new stuff like their brand new Honda City and the like or gimme one of their digi-cams(till I buy my own).He's always loved irritating me to hell and now has company in the task...guess it was a bad day for me when they decided to read Chetan Bhagat and now totally wanna believe all the boozing stuff!Every single action of mine tells them a story,apparently.
Okie,that was a slight deviation from the topic.Lemme consider the singles' scenario now.
Guys:
A majority of them nerds,studs even,thats a given...somewhat cute..acceptable.Quite a majority of them enjoy the deliberate use of the term "non-males"(love the look on Pavi's face everytime she hears this)...probably frustrated young idiots,whose best friend,for all you know has a terrific gf.Now,there are also those who think attending classes in the same set of clothes for two weeks in a row is a fashion statement...few of my friends would gladly note their birthdays and would like to do some fund-rising stuff,to buy the appropriate presents.You know like forwarding messages that might go something like this"_____ is in dire need of H2O,mixtures of potassium salts of fatty acids and some clothes.We receive Rs 0.50 for every message you forward.Please help.God Bless!"
And there are those who appear disinterested and could make anyone believe talking to girls could be a crime.Could be they have found their first love in Griffiths or Piskunov...but they could atleast be civil and 'just friends',you know.Well,I shouldn't be the one talking about talking to people..if talking to someone for the first time,sometimes it might appear like I've never learnt speaking at all and have never known to smile all my life.But thats the gen opinion!Then there are those who are friendly but afraid of being 'teased' by their friends.Some flirts,friendly ones and other varieties too..
Gals:
This demands another post altogether,including the issue of 'non-males'.
"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take."
Well,to me Friendship is the best relationship in the world...else why would we search for a friend in everyone be it your dad or mom or sibling or a total stranger or the ONE!!:)
PS:If your habitat is nowhere near the banks of Sharavati,you might indeed be treading in unfamiliar territory while reading the post...Cya on the other side of quiz 2!
Good one Archu!!! Finally took my advice to start a blog..
ReplyDeleteThe best thing abt the post is that the truth is laid out "as-it-is".. and its funny!!! :D
Keep it up.. Expecting more from u! :) :)
thanx a lot Maddie!!:)
ReplyDeletehoping its good enough for 'public-viewing' lol:D
The worst part is, you go to Tif, there are two people looking into each other's eyes. You know both of them. But you don't know whether they are a couple or not.
ReplyDeleteWhat would you do? Disturb them? Or quietly sit somewhere else? Seriously, they should carry around a board with them announcing the status of their relationship. :-/
Lol!True..
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ReplyDeleteWoah!
ReplyDelete-->You got that right!I don't have the time or patience for falling in and outta relationships and cribbing about previous mistakes to someone,who you are not sure is a friend or something more(relationship undefined!).Compromises and obligations.Oh you would know better.That's just out of my comfort zone!!
-->First of all,I'm not doing a thesis the topic.Some random thoughts that wandered into my mind as I wrote...Yes there might just be a narcissist side to me.I wont bother myself discovering your 'label'!
-->How sad!I meant well-read individuals to clearly understand what they were getting themselves into when I decided on 'noncircuitous rambling' and there is also 'Nonsensical sense'.Or did your 'gal-friend' force you to read!?Pity you didn't hang yourself!:)
-->Thanx for noting..genius only!See you say he has a laugh with his present gf about what he did with the previous one...who is to say he wont laugh abt this one with someone else!Break-ups n patch-ups..
-->I know the way you look at things change when you'r in a relationship and all that..but some stuff around here is just plain silly.Most people succumb to 'peer-pressure' maybe...oh there might be a few meaningful cases,yes.Who knows,you might even get to hear my ramblings from the other point of view sometime later!lol
P.S: All the above rambling is meant to be read in the most sportive manner and any kind of insult or rudeness experienced by the reader is solely his/her own responsibility and the author does not hold any kind of obligation to answer or attend a confrontation of any sort... ;)
P.P.S:Please don't do anything of the sort...it might only drive you into deep depression going by how sad this post has made you.:):)
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